Buying an Engagement Ring Without a Finger Size

Finding out the finger size can be quite tricky, especially in the event of a surprise. Unless we are fortunate enough to be aware of the size, either by chance, memory or having the guidance of a close family member who knows, this can indeed cause great concern. Fortunately this is something we encounter daily and here (at the end of a very long week!) I spend a few minutes to offer some pointers, especially concerning styles to avoid (where adjustments may be required.)

Ok, so first of all, a brief note on various tools that are around. You have tools such as the Multisizer that we send out free of charge. We pop it out by plain post, by first class post in a plain envelope. Just contact us and we’ll send you one out. Not much use really in the event of a surprise because you can’t use it. So if she’s perhaps got a ring she wears on the third finger of the left hand, (ideally, but unlikely) but on the opposite hand dominant hands tend to be a size or two larger, so that’s always worth bearing in mind. But if you can get one of these rings you could actually put it on your own finger, mark where the ring rests and then use the strap sizer to read off the letters. It actually gives you a letter which is the UK size system and each letter gives you a particular finger size. We do half sizes as well. Half a size up or half a size down so for example, size L and a half would be a little bit larger than L, it would be in between L and M. So we need a finger size before we actually make a ring. Worst case scenario and you have absolutely no idea, we could make it in a mid finger size, something like an M or N. Below that tends to be smaller, so J, K on the smaller side of average, and then you’ve got M, N in the middle, and then sizes such as P, Q, R, S are then moving larger. So really it’s about guesstimating, maybe seeing what sort of area are you in, if you’re in the right area – has she got small hands, or has she got larger hands, sometimes difficult to actually estimate.

Tools that we use, sizing rings, are not much use in the event of surprise again. Internet tools, clever things you can print off or you can use an existing ring the same way, even measuring the internal diameter of a ring that she wears, that is not always the best way, but at least it will without being accurate, it will give you a very close area to the size and where to aim. So a few pointers there.

For the ring style itself, some rings are more easily sized if you get it slightly wrong. I really would keep away from anything with diamond set shoulders if you can, unless she’s particularly expressed a preference for that style. Styles such as this with diamond set shoulders, when you actually adjust the size of the ring down, it can actually open the settings up. Those will have to be checked if you have the size adjusted. It can’t really be adjusted by more than a size and a half because it will complicate things having diamond set shoulders. Furthermore if you actually open up the size of the ring, make it larger, it can actually shatter the diamonds in the shoulders, so things to bear in mind.  Perhaps go for a style that actually has plain shoulders, also claw settings rather than tension or part bezel settings, because, as you size a ring down, the setting can open up so you can get problems then with the stone not being able to be secured afterwards. Large size adjustments, very large size adjustments can sometimes mean having to make a new ring. You’ll probably see this sort of size stick in jewellers, it tends to have readings along the stick. You drop the ring on and then where the actual ring rests on the leading edge is what we read the size off as. So , if you take one of the rings she wears she wears at the moment into a jewellers, or if you sent it into us, we would drop it onto stick like that and we would read off the size, in this case it is size M and plain shoulder, settings with claws or prongs they are probably the best sort of styles to go for if you are guesstimating finger size.

The next note is metal choice. 18ct Gold and Platinum are very good choices. Palladium I would tend to keep away from because it’s trickier to size. Platinum gives a lovely seamless finish, it tends to be lasered. So it is always a good metal to go for even though it is a bit more expensive. We sometimes from time to time where size is an issue, we do have a lot of sample rings so we can potentially send out a sample ring to send out as a mock engagement ring, and then order the ring from us once you have actually proposed with the sample ring. So that is a suggestion because then you can be sized properly, or she can be sized properly and we can start making the ring, the actual ring with the exact perfect size in the first place. So a few things there to bear in mind and if you need any advice or information, please do get in touch. If you want a free ring sizer, get in touch and let us know the address to send it to and we’ll do our best to help you. Thanks for listening, watching.

 

 

Mark Johnson

About Mark Johnson

Mark attended Liverpool University and went on to pursue a career in the diamond industry. After more than a decade working in polished diamonds, Mark moved to the Isle of Wight where he launched Serendipity Diamonds. He works most days from their busy Ryde showroom, photographing jewellery and writing for the Serendipity Diamonds website. Anyone interested can connect with Mark on Linkedin via the profile link.

Mark Johnson

About Mark Johnson

Mark attended Liverpool University and went on to pursue a career in the diamond industry. After more than a decade working in polished diamonds, Mark moved to the Isle of Wight where he launched Serendipity Diamonds. He works most days from their busy Ryde showroom, photographing jewellery and writing for the Serendipity Diamonds website. Anyone interested can connect with Mark on Linkedin via the profile link.